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Hi Friend

When something happens in your life, it tends to bring up a
certain amount of feeling. Someone cuts you off in traffic,
and it brings up anger or perhaps fear. That anger and that
fear have a certain amount of volume to it.

Or perhaps you're grieving for the loss of a loved one. You
have a certain volume of grief you must go through. Once
you've felt that volume of grief, then you're over it and
you move on with life.

No matter how emotionally healthy you are, there's still a
certain volume of emotion you must deal with at any given
time. The more cleanly you're willing to feel that emotion,
the quicker you'll get over it.

You can feel ALL the anger from someone cutting you off in
traffic right at that moment. And within a minute you can
be completely over it. Back to what you were feeling before
the incident.

Or, you can take little pieces of that anger, mix it with a
whole bunch of nonsense, and chew on it all day long. And
still have some leftovers for tomorrow!

If you choose to feel it all at once, it's almost like a
'body rush'. Somewhat similar to the body rush you feel
when surprised by a snake, or suddenly looking down from a
tall height. Or any other situation that brings up a rush
of real fear.

You know that rush I'm talking about? Some people get
addicted to it.

Well, it's possible to feel that same rush with anger.
It's a different body sensation from the fear, but the same
principle. You're choosing to feel it cleanly and it rushes
through your body so fast it actually invigorates you.

Some people go for the fear rush because they like the way
it makes them feel. While I don't recommend it, I do
understand it. Because it leaves you feeling 'more'.

Seeking out that adrenaline rush eventually leads to various
problems. The point I want to make is that it feels good to
cleanly feel your emotions - no matter what they are. The
quicker you allow yourself to feel the volume of emotion,
the better off you'll be. AND it actually feels better to
get it out quickly.

But what about the death of a loved one? It's a terrible
situation that can bring up all sorts of feelings. Once
again, you're much better off embracing the most feeling
you can as quickly as possible.

The problem with a grieving situation is that it often
brings up other unresolved emotions that have not been
dealt with before. Admittedly, it can be difficult to
tell what is the honest grieving and what is the unresolved
shame, pity, anger, etc. For example, am I feeling the
genuine sorrow from my mother dying, or am I feeling the
unresolved shame that she dumped on me fifty years ago?

If you're not used to being honest with your emotions, it
can be hard to tell the difference. Since it takes a
certain amount of discernment to know exactly what you're
feeling under the best of circumstances, how can you be
expected to know what you're feeling under the worst of
circumstances?

Obviously it's important to not put any more pressure on
yourself than you've already got. Simply be aware of the
principle of 'volume of emotion'. Know that you have a
certain volume of grief that will need to come out;
expressing itself as a wide range of feelings.

Accept whatever you're feeling as valid and worthy of being
felt. While keeping in mind that many unresolved feelings
of the past may also come up. These feelings also deserve
to be accepted as valid and true and worthy of your
attention and embrace.

Remember, no matter the event - good or bad, wanted or
unwanted, pleasant or unpleasant - it will bring up feelings
in you. All events engender feelings. Those feelings have
a certain volume. The more you open yourself to feeling
them, the quicker you'll release them, the better you'll
feel about yourself, the more alive you'll feel, and the
greater your emotional health will be.

Want a rush? Want a thrill? Give yourself permission to
embrace the volume of your emotion as cleanly and as quickly
as possible.


And it helps if you tear down the wall that stands between
you and your emotions! For more info on how to do that,
go to ==>

http://www.healing-emotional-pain.com/page3.html




all the best

Mark


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