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Here's How Your Emotional Patterns Started


As an infant, you came into this world fully expressing
everything you felt. You held nothing back. You truly knew
emotional freedom.

You experienced a healthy relationship with *all* your
feelings.

Of course, at the time, you lacked the maturity to express
them appropriately...

It's called 'freedom without responsibility'. A wonderful,
glorious state of being that's destined to end.


From the ages of 0 to 5, we're constantly soaking up
information.

Everything - ALL input - is accepted without question. All
on a subconscious and unconscious level.


Because we lack the ability to evaluate. Our conscious mind
simply has not developed enough yet to determine 'this is
good' and 'that is bad'.

In this early stage of life, we are essentially being
programmed by the world.

The greatest influence, of course, was your mother (or the
mothering figure in your life).

Think back for a second - what do you suppose your mother
believed about her feelings?

Did she view them as grand and glorious gifts? Powerful
expressions of her divine nature?

Did she fully and completely embrace all her feelings with
intensity and joy?

Did she love all her emotions?

Was she mostly happy?

Did she understand how truly VALUABLE it is to develop a
healthy, mature relationship with WHATEVER she was feeling?



Until the age of two or three, you felt whatever your mother
felt. When she was happy; you were happy. When she was
scared; you were scared. When she was sad; you were sad.

Your emotional responses formed and shaped themselves
long before you could think about whether or not they were
the ones you wanted. You had no choice in the matter.


Patterns were laid.


Programs were formed.


Neurological pathways of least effort were created in your
brain. Patterns that most likely exist to this very day.

After the age of 5 or 6 - as you learned to reason and think
for yourself - you may have changed some of those patterns.
Perhaps you flipped them around, so now you do the exact
opposite.

But that's simply the other side of the same coin - and
mother's influence lives on in your brain and in life.



Those first five years are critical to your emotional state
TODAY, for several reasons.


1. At that age, you couldn't evaluate.

Everything was accepted as fact. You didn't get to decide
what to believe and what not to believe. You had no way of
knowing if what you were about to believe was true or not.

You didn't have the ability to question ANYTHING.

For example -

You couldn't possibly associate a spanking with errant
behavior.

You could be trained - like a dog - but you couldn't learn
and grow in a positive way from punishment. Instead, the
pain became internalized. You would come to believe love
equals pain.

Because, first of all, there will always be some love between
a mother and child. The love always exists.

But so often, there's also pain. Either by direct punishment,
or by indirect means such as withholding affection.


Mother's disapproval comes in many forms.


(And that's not to mention the downright fatigue and hormone
changes and mood swings and angry outbursts and all the
other stuff that comes with the very difficult task of being
a mother!)

It's almost impossible to be loving all the time. No matter
how hard she tried. But that rage she forgot in a few hours
lives on in you today.

You were a blank slate. Soaking up everything like a sponge.
And the most INTENSE feelings created the BIGGEST impact
and the most POWERFUL programs. Programs you live out
today and every day of your life.


Age does not diminish them one bit.


This stands as one of many examples of what happens during
those critical early years when you're unable to evaluate
and rationalize what's happening to you.


2. Beliefs always build on previous beliefs.

Let's say you believe - as many people do - that love equals
pain. And you formed this belief at an early age - when you
were a blank slate.

It became a foundational belief. A fundamental belief.
Locked in by intense feelings of sadness, hurt, confusion
and memories of physical pain.

Now every other belief around love will rest upon that first
belief about love. Plus, every subsequent belief about PAIN
will also rest upon that belief.

So not only will it influence the pain of love - it will also
the LOVE of PAIN!

Beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. Your
subconscious seeks CONSISTENCY above all else. It doesn't
give you what you say you want - it gives you whatever is
consistent with the beliefs you ALREADY hold.

Remember, those beliefs about love and pain were accepted
as the Gospel Truth.

Reality follows belief. YOUR reality follows YOUR beliefs.

The more intense the feelings around a particular belief,
the more influence that belief has in your life and the more
likely it will continue to manifest in your reality.



And when you're a small child - EVERYTHING is intense!



Are you beginning to see how much impact those early beliefs
have on your present condition today?

And why it's really not your fault if you're going through a
ton of emotional pain now?

Not only is love painful...

But for so many of us, we're ATTRACTED to pain - in a failed
attempt to feel love.

All because of a faulty belief.

Made by a two-year-old.

Unable to be reasoned away.

Reinforced by concrete pain.

Influencing every single action we take today.


No matter how hard we try, change seems impossible. Because
we're standing on a foundation of "love = pain".

And now it's like trying to plant flowers on barren soil.

"Why can't I grow beautiful roses?"

"Why does my life seem so miserable when I'm trying so hard?"

Because of the foundation that seems rock-solid; written in
stone.



As you think about what I'm saying - as you really let it
in - it's normal to feel a little overwhelmed by just how
serious the problem really is.

I know when it first hit me, I wanted to give up.

"It's hopeless!"

"I can't possibly fight it or change it - so I'm just going
to give up."

And I did - for a very long time. I withdrew. I stopped
trying in so many ways. I quit participating in life.

I over-achieved at under-achieving.

Which only made things worse.

The pain spread - as pain always does when you ignore it.

It's so sad, really. Because I didn't know what to do.

At the time, basically all I knew was I had created beliefs
that severely limited what I could achieve in my life.

I didn't yet know those beliefs could be changed with
relative ease. I thought beliefs anchored themselves in
'concrete'. Untouchable. Unchangeable. Unable to be
overcome.

I didn't yet know where to find my beliefs and how to change
them. I believed changing beliefs was impossible. At least
for me.

And finally, I didn't yet know changing beliefs comes from
following a process - a specific set of steps involving:

- removing the old belief

- releasing the old emotional energy

- inserting a new belief in the 'slot' that the old belief
occupied

- anchoring the new belief with ANY feelings I wanted!

For the new belief to 'stick' - it must carefully conform to
certain rules and restrictions. I still don't know why; I
just know it does.

I don't have all the answers. But I do know what WORKS.

I spent years working with the belief changing technique -
making it as foolproof as possible.

Finally, a few months ago, I recorded it onto an audio file.

It takes about thirty minutes to listen to it all the way
through. Which may seem like a long time if you don't truly
understand what a change it can make in your life.

It's like being able to go back into the past and live life
over again. Only this time getting it right.

It's a way to rewrite the rules your life must follow.
You can change that negative programming that others put
into you.

But don't take my word for it. Get the recording and use it.
It WILL change your life for the better.

I offer it as a free bonus. It comes with the program on
"How To Create Your Own Reality".

http://www.create-reality.com

all the best,

Mark

PS - If you've already ordered a copy of the e-book
"How To Create Your Own Reality" then you're entitled
to a free copy of the audio file as well. (Along with
two other audios.) Just reply to this message and I'll
send you a link to all three audio files.


brought to you by
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
fiercely slaying your emotional dragons!