[[date_long]] Hi Friend You are receiving this message because you requested information on how to handle depression. To unsubscribe from these mailings, click on the link at the bottom of the page. Or, if you also receive my ezine Emotional Times, then you may as well unsubscribe from this list, since from now on it will be the exact same message. (Unless you just want to read it twice...) How To Do Anything To do anything in this world requires three things. Willingness, choice, and ability. Willingness - a flexing, an exercise, of your will. Every action, every accomplishment, every success, usually begins here. What are you willing to do, to be, to have? To answer that question, just look at your life right now. So much of what you see when you examine your life, comes from your willingness. So often we settle for what we think we deserve, rather than reaching and stretching for what we really want. Once upon a time, you were filled with deservability. As a child, you deserved anything and everything, and you knew it! If you're like most people, however, those thoughts and feelings of deservability vanished - snatched away in the night - to be replaced with the thoughts and feelings of self-importance. With the satisfaction and contentment of deservability gone, in its place came the settling and complacency of self-importance. For many, this happened before puberty. Very, very few people survive adolescence with their 'deservability' intact. The phrase, "You're only getting what you deserve" takes on a painful and poignant meaning. The lack of deserving functions like a low ceiling in your living room; you can never stand up; you can never reach for new heights. It limits and can even imprison you. It 'stunts your growth'. Fortunately, a very easy and elegant solution exists right at your fingertips! Forget about deserving. Go for the willingness instead. Your WILL sets things in motion - NOT your degree of deservability. So many grownups go through life waiting to deserve, rather than giving themselves the permission to achieve through willingness. Willingness causes. Deserving is the effect. AFTER you attain what you seek through your willingness, your will; THEN you feel more deserving. Willingness always comes first. And it never depends on how deserving you feel. Whatever you want, look first to your degree of willingness. Great power resides in your will. (However, many things can divert or dilute the power of your will. "Payoffs", such as getting others to feel sorry for you, and hidden agendas, such as wanting to control others, often siphons off a lot of your willingness.) Out of willingness comes the second ingredient - choice. First you remove the barriers to your willingness, then you CHOOSE. Like willingness, choice makes things happen. Choice exists as a raw material of reality creation. It's essential for life. You could not function in the world without making choices. (Although many people try!) Choice is like the yeast when you're making bread; it provides the energy of activation. Your life exists largely as a product of the choices you make. The key to working with (and strengthening) your power of choice lies in becoming more aware of the many, many choices you generate every single day. A few good questions to constantly ask yourself: "What are my choices here?" "Is this a choice?" "Did I make this choice?" "What will I choose"? The more consciousness you bring to choice, the stronger it grows and the more powerful it becomes. The third ingredient to doing anything lies with ability. First you're willing. Second, you choose. Then comes the ability. Here are a few points to keep in mind about ability: 1. Ability comes from - or develops from - a certain response; the response to fix and cure an inability. 2. Ability is born of necessity. 3. As ability matures, skills develop and talents emerge. 4. While willingness exists as a masculine energy, ability exists as a feminine energy. (With choice in the middle.) 5. Ability follows entropy. (Once something is created, it begins to deteriorate.) 6. The entropy of ability reverses by the mastery and artistry of spirituality (the relationship with God). In other words, strengthening your relationship with your Creator allows your ability (for anything) to naturally expand. So, to summarize: To work with willingness, don't tie it to 'deserving'. Be willing by examining and releasing your payoffs and hidden agendas. To work with choice, constantly question the choices you make. Focus on your choices and be aware of them. To work with ability, develop your spirituality as a foundation to working with your talents, strengths and skills. You can have ANYTHING with willingness, choice, and ability. And now, I'd like to end on a totally unrelated subject... 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