I've received a few emails over the past few weeks
with questions about what you can do when you are
feeling deeply annoyed or upset with someone you
This can be really difficult especially when we are
living with the person that is aggravating us the
most. Here are a few simple things that really help
you to get emotionally clear so you can choose how
best to respond.
what it is that you are feeling.
This seems really basic but most people don't do
it. They just know they're bugged but don't think
about it much beyond that. It's important to take
time with yourself to
understand your feelings and get clear, so you can
choose carefully the best way to respond. So, what
are you feeling
exactly? Are you feeling hurt, angry, disturbed,
annoyed? Get as specific as you can.
yourself to feel what you feel without
judgement. Doing the neurovascular
hold helps you to do this. To do the hold, just lay
one hand across your forehead and the other across
the back of your head just above the neck.
here to see the video "how to" for this.)
While doing this hold, take some deep breaths
"Even though I'm feeling angry and hurt right
now, I'm open
to finding a new way to see this problem. Even
though I'm having a hard time even looking at this
person, I appreciate me and I'm open to
understanding myself and this situation better. I'm
open to understanding what it is that I need and
how best I can communicate that. I'm open to
remembering that I really do love and appreciate
this person, I'm just upset right now." Take a few
more deep breaths while doing the neurovascular
hold. This will keep the blood in the reasoning
part of your brain and stop the fight or flight
yourself, "The part of me that's feeling (angry,
hurt, annoyed, ect.) what does that part of me
need?" Are you needing to feel
heard? Are you needing some emotional support? More
support with the workload around the house? Are you
needing to feel included? Valued? Appreciated? Are
you needing more connection?
yourself, "What can I do to get this need met? Is
there a kind way that I can communicate this need?
What do I need to do differently to break this
pattern of aggravation?
These kinds of questions are really great to help
you get clear, understand yourself, and choose how
best to respond to difficult situations.
Sometimes everything going on seems to annoy us
because there are painful, old issues that haven't
been healed and released so we might feel a huge
reaction to small things. If you find yourself
blowing up, or feeling really hurt over little
things, I highly recommend the "Smile
Again" Home study program and some
one on one healing sessions. When you can heal
and release the hidden core issues, you feel a deep
sense of peace and contentment. It's so much easier
to enjoy your family and loved ones when old hurts
aren't constantly being triggered.
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